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wish you all the bestest things!!
“dreaming is free!!”
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10 Signs You Marry The Wrong Person
By Dov Heller
With the divorce rate over 50%, too many are apparently making a serious mistake in deciding whom to spend the rest of their life with. To avoid becoming a “statistic,” try to internalize 10 insights.
1. You pick the wrong person because you expect him/her to change after you’re married.
The classic mistake! NEVER MARRY POTENTIAL!! The Golden Rule is, if you can’t be happy with the person the way he or she is now, don’t get married. As a colleague of mine so wisely put it, “You actually can expect people to change after their married…for the worst!” So when it comes to the other person’s spirituality, character, personal hygiene, communication skills, and personal habits, make sure you can live with these as they are now.
2. You pick the wrong person because you focus more on chemistry than their character.
Chemistry ignites the fire, but good character keeps it burning. Beware of the “I’m in love” syndrome. “I’m in love” often means, “I’m in lust.” Attraction is there, but have you carefully checked out this person’s character?
Here are four characteristics to definitely check for:
* Humility: -Does this person believe that “doing the right thing” is more important than personal comfort?
* Kindness: - Does this person enjoy giving pleasure to other people?
* How does s/he treat people s/he doesn’t have to be nice to?
* Does s/he do volunteer work? Give to charity?
* Responsibility: -Can I depend on this person to do what s/he says s/he is going to do?
* Happiness: -Does this person like himself? Does s/he enjoy life?
- Is s/he emotionally stable?
Ask yourself:
Do I want to be more like this person?
Do I want to have a child with this person?
Would I like my child to turn out like him or her?
3. You choose the wrong person because you do not share a common life goal and priorities.
There are three basic ways we connect with another person:
a) Chemistry and compatibility
b) Share common interests
c) Share common life goal.
Make sure you share a deeper level of connection that sharing life goals provide. After marriage, the two of you will either grow together or grow apart. To avoid growing apart, you must figure out what you’re living for while you are single-and then find someone who has come to the same conclusion as you. This is the true definition of a soul mate. A soul mate is a goal mate… two people who ultimately share the same understanding of life’s purpose and therefore share the same priorities, values and goals.
4. You pick the wrong person because you do not have deeper emotional connection.
To evaluate whether you have a deeper emotional connection or not, ask: “Do I respect and admire this person?” This does not mean, “Am I impressed by this person?” We are impressed by a Mercedes. We do not respect someone because they own a Mercedes. Yes, you should be impressed by qualities of creativity, loyalty, determination, etc., but do you actually respect and admire this person who possesses these qualities?
Also ask: “Do I trust this person?” This also means, “Is he/she emotionally stable? Do I feel I can rely on him/her?
Q & A
Kalau ditanya lagi kepengen apa, jawabannya : pengen main permainan ‘Berbagi Mimpi’ !
Q : Apa sih permainan ‘Berbagi Mimpi’ ini
A : Permainan lewat kata-kata yang bersifat pengharapan, lalu dibagi satu sama lainnya, then ada action untuk bisa saling mendukung mimpi-mimpinya satu sama lain.
Q : Ini permainan antara dua orang yah?
A : Bisa juga lebih, tergantung.
Q : Jadi berbagi mimpi harus dengan orang yang punya mimpi ya?
A : Gimana mau berbagi, kalau orang yang kita ajak di permainan ini ga punya mimpi.
Q : Rule of The Game nya apa aja?
A : Ya itu tadi, yang penting punya mimpi, soal kesamaan mimpi sih itu relatif ya. Be relax and be your self of course.
Q : Situasi yang paling tepat?
A : Situasi yang nyaman. Semakin nyaman, semakin banyak mimpi yang bisa kamu bagi.
Q : Gimana kalau ternyata orang yang didepan kita bukan orang yang bisa diajak berbagi mimpi?
A : Maybe you just have to wait or maybe you have to find someone else.
(to be continued)
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+ Minggu Pagi lari yuk!
- Hayu!
+ Lari dari kenyataan
- ^&#)&!*
Dearest A,
Incomplete
unhappy
disappear
unlove
dislike
disaffection
unacceptable
carelessness
Without you, I have to give the strikethrough action in some words.
like I said before “You’re inspiring me that much!”
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panggung
Silakan saja menikmati panggungmu, jika kamu meminta bersebelahan dengan panggung ku, jangan cemburu.
karena tepuk tangan meriah sering kali muncul di panggung ini.
Suitswiw! aku lebih suka men-suitswiw sendiri apabila aksi panggung [yang buatku] terlihat memukau, klimaks, tendendsius, implisit, retorik, whatever! Even sometimes they act too much absurd..
Jangan, tolong jangan.
Jangan tatapan sinis itu lagi!
Kalau kamu tertarik, berikan saja tepuk tangan kecil, atau memuji dalam hati pun tak apa.
“Buatku kata-kata terdengar indah apabila keluar dari hati, walau sayup.”
Apalagi dengan panggungmu yang dua kali lipat luas panggung ini.
Mari, panggungku selalu terbuka untuk siapa saja.
Para penikmat dunia
Para penjilat
Para backstabber
Para pengadu
Tapi maaf kalau nanti aku tidak bertepuk tangan sekecil apapun untuk aksi kalian
karena lagi, aku tidak terlalu suka akan basa basi.
Kalau memang nantinya aku bersikap begitu,
berarti aku memang tidak tertarik sama sekali.
the long and winding road
The long and winding road that leads to your door
Will never disappear, I’ve seen that road before
It always leads me here, leads me to your door.
The wild and windy night that the rain washed away,
Has left a pool of tears crying for the day.
Why leave me standing here, let me know the way.
Many times I’ve been alone and many times I’ve cried,
Anyway you’ll never know the many ways I’ve tried, but
Still they lead me back to the long and winding road,
You left me standing here a long, long time ago
Don’t leave me waiting here, lead me to your door
The Beatles
OST | Comment (0)resolusi
Kenapa ya taun baru harus identik sama resolusi?
saya juga, selalu membuat catatan-catatan tentang resolusi biasanya di jurnal harian saya a.k.a diary part something.
resolusi bukan berarti cuma awal baru saja. Ada rencana-rencana, hal-hal yang harus saya lakukan, hal-hal yang harus dirubah, hal-hal yang harus dibuang.
malah biasanya resolusi berujung wishlist ^_^
pengen barang ini lah,
pengen barang itu lah
ya ya ya itu juga salah satu dari penyemangat kan?
Jadi inilah beberapa resolusi lanjutan dan tambahan resolusi baru saya :
* solat jangan di entar-entar, solat malem jangan lupa
* nabung lagi, klo bisa ikut program ‘nabung paksa’ alias autodebet
* handphone
tu kan belum-belum udah berbentuk barang
* kerjaan baru
klo ini setiap taun pasti minta yang sama, mumpung masih muda.
* good communication with Pap
i’ll try everyday!
* belajar bikin kue bolu (bolu gulung, bolu kukus, lapis legit)
ini sih selalu tergiur buat beli jadi, yang instan memang lebih menggiurkan.
* liburan ke pantai
* lebih terbuka klo ada masalah,
* [semoga yang ini ga bikin jadi misunderstanding]
Amin yaa Rabbal ‘alamin..
Menulis beberapa resolusi saja, memakan waktu 4 jam.
Saya mencoba berhati-hati dengan keinginan saja, tong gagabah ceunah ceuk kolot mah*..
* jangan sembarangan (ngomong) kata orangtua sih..
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closet n shit
Dia bilang tulisan saya..
+ simple, lucu, dan slalu menarik. Ini faktanya..
- makasih ya..
+ saya ga bisa kaya gitu
- different world, different idea, just like yin n yang, to complete each other
+ i hope so
- amin..
+ to complete each other! Amin..
- yes, just like a pair of socks
+ yup! or kloset n [maaf] ee??
- nah itu dia!! lucu ya? we’re just like TOTO n shit 
+ gelo!
- beneran, saya mau nulis tentang itu
+ ntar yg namanya toto tersinggung ga?
- oia ya! ya udah closet n shit aja.
Hahahahahaha!
cheers!